Can you be enlightened and care or be passionate?

This seems to be an often asked question. If you are no longer attached to things, be they events or material objects, in order for them to bring you happiness does this mean that you don’t care about them?

If you don’t need to achieve a certain goal in your life in order to be happy can you be passionate about that goal?

When we look at enlightened people they seem to be very chilled out. Can you only achieve this state if you don’t care and haven’t passion?

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How can a non-enlightened person teach enlightenment?

You may well have come across a number of characters on the internet who teach enlightenment but don’t make any claims to be enlightened themselves.

As Anthony de Mello put it when he was asked “Are you enlightened” – “What does it matter?”

Well surely it does matter. If you want to learn how to be a surgeon you pretty much want to make sure your teacher is one … right?

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Ego Structure and Ego Content – what’s the difference

This came up in episode 4 of the series where Oprah and Tolle were going through the book A New earth. You can see the episode here:

The question comes up 35 minutes in where a mother of an autistic child asks why so many people like here still feel guilt even though realistically they are doing all that they can.

For example a stay at home mother feels guilty for getting bored playing with her child while a mother who is working feels guilty for not being with her child.

Tolle says this is to do with the structure of the Ego, not the content – but what is the difference between the two?

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The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden

This is a book available on Amazon but it boils down to these:

  1. The Practice of Living Consciously – remaining focused on what you are doing and want to achieve rather than getting distracted
  2. The Practice of Self Acceptance – you are who you are
  3. The Practice of Self Responsibility – stop waiting around for others to sort your life out
  4. The Practice of Self Assertiveness – don’t be afraid to say what you think
  5. The Practice of Living Purposefully – look to do something more than Sleep – Work – Eat
  6. The Practice of Personal Integrity – if you say you are going to do something, do it.

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Retreat from reason, n=1

In pondering self exploration I seem to be coming across an ever growing  world of people who believe in things which cannot be proved. I had thought this concept was mostly confined to those who believed in religions but not so.

I’ve also recently spent some time with a friend who buys into the idea that water has memory while at the same time – at the other end of the scale – I’ve watched such things as Richard Dawkins ‘Enemies of Reason’ work.

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New German Medicine and Total Biology – can you think yourself better?

So many methods of self-discovery suggest the route involves resolving psychological conflicts that you have. Not all. Buddhism based thinking, for example, is more about initially observing the conflict rather than trying to resolve it.

When you observe, they say, you disassociate yourself from it which gives you the opportunity to see it from a different point of view. Something that you felt was stressful, for example, becomes something that energizers.

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Why is being happy so damn hard?

I’ve been having an excellent discussion with Attila Orosz over at his blog ‘Mediation for Beginners‘. His three year old article 13+1 DEFINITIVE SIGNS THAT SHOW YOU ARE NOT ENLIGHTENED is a great way to bring people who think they have ‘got it’ when it comes to enlightenment back down to earth.

But one part of it that bugged me was Attila’s assertion that an enlightened person cannot be happy all of the time.

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You’ve left your brains in the parking lot

“Its a bit like when you go into the army, the first thing we want is to take over your body so symbolically we’re going to shave off all your hair. As long as you give in on this we’ve got you. We’ve got your body.

In one sense sometimes … some churches … do the same. We’re going to tell you something unbelievable that you’ve got to believe. If you believe it then you believe that they alone control heaven, without them you cannot get into heaven and then they’ve got you. You’ve left your brains in the parking lot”Source: John Dominic Crossan

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